Tks to whoever who has read my first post. Ya, holding 4 portfolios is sure busy - that is why it is only 1 post since I started. Well here goes my 2nd post, my reflections as a wife. It is also hard to have lived and known someone for close to 30 years from my teens to now on the threshold of being termed middle-age and not be taken for granted. As the saying goes, Man is from Mars and Woman from Venus, as a couple, my other half and I are still so different in our temperament, character and how we view the world and the happenings around us - in particular with the heartaches of our growing children who I am finding so hard to catch up with. My significant other, is just so laissez -fair about everything.. and I guess worse still, he belonging to a race that is very happy go lucky about life does make it sometimes so hard for him to lend alistening ear, let alone a shoulder to share the woes of parenthood. No negatives for him, share the good and save the problems! No empathy, just lots of sacarsicm about your bulging wastline, love handles and crows' feet. Doesn't he understand that sometimes what the wife needs is a little love, (even lies) to keep her hopes high? As a wife, supposed to share his problems his worries - and better make it a one-way traffic. Sometimes I wonder - what has happened to "my husband my friend" or our wedding tagline "and the 2 shall become 1" - maybe we were not insightful enough - 2 shall become 1" actually means 2 problems becomes 1 problem to be managed by the wifE!